Even if the woman has an income of her own, her shopping habits may jeopardize the financial health of the whole family. Don’t try to be “challenging”. I often hear it said that a confident man should be with a woman who challenges him. Men are challenged all day at work, in sports, in discussions with their male friends. They don’t want to be challenged when they get home. They want a soft place to land. They don’t want to compete with you; they are already competing with other men. They want women for women’s female specific virtues, such as empathy and agreeableness, as well as thoughtful acts of kindness and low-conflict behavior. A man prefers to have your support, loyalty and devotion, and if you give it to him he will return it tenfold. Embracing femininity also means rediscovering the lost art of submissiveness. Even though your single mom, your teachers and Sex and the City have sternly instructed you since childhood to never be dependent on or submit to any man, you can’t help but guiltily feel a strong tingle of desire for dominant men who won’t put up with your shenanigans. I am here to give you redemption. Learn about sexual fantasies in the bedroom. You are not alone. The majority of women fantasize about being submissive  . You are attracted to dominant men because dominant men have, since time immemorial, been better suited for survival and the survival of their children. You hate the beta-boy who supplicates and forces you into the position of pants wearing and you love the man who grabs your neck hair and takes what he wants doggy style like a caveman. This yearning to submit to a dominant man is encoded within your DNA and, as such, you are not responsible for it, so make your peace with it. I’ll list below a few more things to keep in mind in order to safeguard your femininity and maintain your sexual mastery: - It’s cute when a petite girl gets tipsy after half a pint, but drinking yourself into a stupor annoys everyone around you and is unbecoming. - Don’t make a big scene and don’t be a loud attention-whore. Be graceful and poised instead.